Friday, February 03, 2012

Being Supportive

I want to be supportive of SSG D - in fact I think that is one of the cornerstones of a good marriage - supporting each others decisions and actions. I have been finding it hard to be supportive lately and what makes it worse is that it is over something that is completely out of his hands.

I want to support him while he is dealing with something that I am certain he doesn't want to do but it is hard because as much as he doesn't want to do it, I don't want him to do it either, but we both know he has no choice. So my question is...how do you be supportive when you are 100% against something? I have no vote, no voice, no say...AT ALL. All I can do is choose how I act and re-act in this situation. I am choosing to put on my big girl panties and a happy face - mainly because SSG D deserves that. He needs to know that everything is going to be ok, that I have it all handled. He does not need to be worrying about us and how we are doing. I know he will do that anyways, but I don't need to add to it.

I am choosing to support him, to let him know I am here, to let him know I can do all that I'm going to need to do and to let him know I can do it with grace and dignity. It isn't something I want to do, but it is something I WILL do.